So J and I ran yesterday in Philsports Arena (popularly known as Ultra). It was very therapeutic. In fact, it wasn’t only our run that was therapeutic–the entire moment, having J beside me, all the thoughts that went through my head all the while were very therapeutic.
Running for me is also a way of self discovery. Very much like writing.
For a good part, it was also J who helped me discover more about my self. I love having him as a running mate because I can share something I am passionate about more openly, and thereby letting him know me deeper.
I love running with him because we are so different that we see and understand each other better through running. Let me delve more about that.
Running to me is like basketball to him. Running to me is also how I view life per se and how I react to certain changes, movements and challenges that go with it. And many of our attitudes in life are seen in the sports we play.
J is very “explosive” in sports. Yes, he is also aggressive in life–a good trait especially in the corporate world. I believe that trait will position him in where he wanted to be in God’s time. I, on the other hand, is not so explosive but intent and utterly focused albeit very quiet. It was never my nature to run after something with the rest of the world if I’m not quite certain I absolutely want it, or if it’s worth it. Here’s another picture of our different personalities, which I think actually complement one another.
Last night, in the starting area for 100m dash, there was a lady [who’s] around my age, positioning herself for a run. J, gestured to me as if saying that I should approach the girl, perhaps seeing that we both share the same passion and we were about the same age. I shook my head and said, “No, that’s bad. It’s a unethical.”
Because for me it is unethical to “rouse someone who’s in deep meditation.” Running is sort of like that to me. It’s very personal. An interruption is often unwelcome. Running is like writing.To observers, it can be a very lonely thing to do because you tend to become so absorbed in your own world and you think of nothing else, not even the crowd cheering you on, not even the environment. You save it all for some nostalgic throwback times later on.
Truth is, runners often don’t care about other runners unless they’re in a competition or they are blocking his way in the same lane. They just don’t care.
J said that seeing other people around–those who are busy playing Frisbee and soccer in the field–makes him feel better. The idea that like-minded individuals are in the same place playing sports they are passionate about makes him happy.
“It’s good to see people who [promote wellness and good] health through sports,” he said.
I agree. However, I don’t really think about these thoughts when I’m running. I save these thoughts for writing, such as now.
But these weren’t the thoughts inside my head while running last night. In my head were my gone days in running including those specific moments–not particularly significant at that time but which I didn’t fully grasp the meaning of or I failed to look at in a clearer, bigger perspective. Those were just short bubbles of memory that sent me back to the different dormitories I’ve lived in college, the people I know and who also know me but didn’t really talk to and those unchartered territories back then.
Last night, I saw this girl who used to be (or maybe still is) a member of the national team in sprint hurdles. I know her and I know she knows me. Back then she had a longtime boyfriend who was also the fastest sprinter in the men’s national team. He also played for La Salle during his UAAP years. They made for a perfect couple. Some even say theirs was a pair made in heaven. She was tall and good-looking and he was also tall and good looking. Then they broke up. The he got injured. Then she got injured. And I never heard about them again because I was in a different world already. Not that I cared for them anyway. But I was observant.
And then now I thought it must have been hard for both of them having to face different hurdles and pressures in many areas of their lives.
I also thought about how many people–my family, relatives, friends, former classmates and colleagues–didn’t fully understand my life then as a student athlete. I guess they never truly understand. I have this inkling that some of them, except for my family and friends, only see this gregarious funny girl who excels in class and plays for the varsity for the sake of scholarship and recognition. Not that I need to show it to them or that they need to see me clearly but I think the fact that many of them misunderstood me was the reason why some of them talked behind my back or spread rumors about me.
I was never a regular student–the ones whose tuition were paid for by their parents and who didn’t need to maintain a general weighted average of not less than 1.50, the ones who didn’t need to get up at four in the morning–rain or shine, holiday or not–to train.
I thought that if they understood my love-hate relationship with running, how it shaped my life and brought me to the place where I met them, they would realize that much of what I am was a product of a place they’ve never been to. And they’d look at me in the eye knowing that even if they don’t fully understand my life, there’s something in there enough for them to know.
And I also thought that my being disconnected with my family was more because I didn’t welcome them, didn’t bring them in. J is the opposite. He would always look for the greater side of things. He would try his best to make things right and sometimes to a fault…because sometimes, it takes a lot of connected hands to make a circle and if one is not willing to align, a circle will not be formed. But the point is, he tries and he never get tired. And I realized, I should’ve done that,too. Although it’s never too late yet. In fact, I am more connected now and still trying to be better at it.
And I also thought that no matter what, I would still keep running as long as my body permits me to. Because running not only re-energizes my body, it also feeds my soul.
And to J, thanks for accompany me in this journey. I know you have your own personal journey, too. And I’m also glad to be a part of it.
Note: this is a late post.